If you are a parent of a young child going through the terrible twos or older stages then you have certainly been more than likely at the business end of an angry, perhaps even hysterical toddler throwing an extremely loud and ever so dramatic temper tantrum in a last ditch attempt to get their own way.
Hard enough to handle at home but what about when this happens in public?! You just want to crawl away or sink into the floor but no, you have to try and remain calm, positive and resist the urge to pick up your screaming child by the scruff of the neck and pull them into line! That while temping, is NOT how to discipline a 2 year old! :-)
It's an excruciating situation to be in, full of embarrassment and intense frustration. So that's the problem... what's the solution and what are some of the best ways to stop tantrums? Please read on where I outline four tips for stopping tantrums that you can use when you are needing to know just how to discipline a 2 year old child or in fact children of all ages.
As parents, we have all had these unpleasant and embarrassing experiences. You can however, learn how to discipline a 2 year old as well as stop a toddler temper tantrum in its tracks and put into practice some really effective techniques that can prevent them from even happening in the first place. Prevention really is better than a cure!
Focus on what your toddler is feeling, not what you are feeling.
Children are no different to us when it comes to wanting to be listened to and understood, If you can understand what your child is feeling and show them that, it will go a long way towards getting on the same page.
Specifically, say you are wanting to leave the park and your toddler, desperate to stay, starts to put one on, phrase their words back at them to show you understand what they are feeling. For example you might say "Oh no, Kaleb is grumpy! He wants to stay and have fun and play at the park!" Now you might think this is fuelling the fire but the opposite is true. More often than not, your toddlers pattern is interrupted, they feel empathy and will calm down enough for you to pick them up and carry them to the car.
Toddlers love special jobs!
No matter how hard it is to believe, your children are actually programmed to be helpful and cooperative! Giving your toddler a special task to do right when you think a tantrum is imminent will often prevent or defuse a tantrum.
An example is getting your toddler to put their seat belt on - an often arduous task! Simply make them the "Seatbelt Manager" and the car doesn't move until everyone is strapped in and signed off by your little "master." While grocery shopping, get them to act as the lookout for very important items on the shelves and point out the direction of the checkouts.
Asking your child for help makes them feel important and useful while keeping their mind away from disruptive behavior and potential tantrums at the same time!
Give in to a toddler temper tantrum and pay the price forever!
Although just giving in can sometimes seem tempting especially when in public, this is the number one how to discipline a 2 year old mistake! By giving them what they wanted, you are showing them that this behavior is not only OK but will result in them getting what they want. Of course, this just leads to repeat performances and every time you give in after that, the pattern gets deeper scratched into their brain.
Just like learning what works, your child will also learn what doesn't work if you just stick to your guns and refuse to let a temper tantrum sway you! Tantrums take energy and no one likes to waste their energy - even toddlers!
When your toddler throws a tantrum - just ignore them
Children are starved for attention and many people are surprised to learn that in the eyes of children, sometimes any attention is good attention. Kids prefer positive attention but if they don't get that, they will resort to being naughty and throwing a tantrum just so they can illicit some kind of response - good or bad!
If we react to this situation, we give them what they wanted in some form and so again, like above, this behavior will be repeated time after time. Realizing that even yelling or scolding at your toddler during a tantrum gives them the attention they want.
Paying attention to a temper tantrum serves as a reinforcer so one of the best ways to handle a temper tantrum is to simply turn off and ignore it. Don't look at, talk to, or respond to your toddler until the tantrum stops. To seal the deal, then start lavishing positive attention on them the minute the inappropriate behavior ceases. This sends a clear message that good behavior is the only way to get your attention.
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